Life – It’s more than a game – August 15

Welcome to week seven!

Because these are loosely based on our sermon series, if you weren’t here on Sunday now is a great time to catch up on the podcast.

To listen to this week’s sermon click here.


wedding picThis past May, Kevin and I celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary.  We started dating in 1994, so I can actually say we have been together longer than I was alive without him.  There is no greater joy in my life than having him beside me, no greater comfort than knowing he will always have my back, no greater honor than being his wife.


There is also no greater challenge in my life.  Now wait, let me clarify it’s not because of him but because of me!  Because I am a selfish person.  I often joke that God did not grant me the gift of hospitality – I barely live well with the people I choose to live with much less anyone else!  I find there is nothing more humbling  than when I examine myself in the context of my marriage.  I don’t know about you, but I struggle to always bring my best.  Often after a long day of caring for others, caring for kids, caring for the house, caring for pets, I just don’t care anymore!  Instead of getting my best, he is often getting what’s left. It hardly seems fair, right?


In the bible Jesus is referred to as the Bridegroom and the church as his bride.  If I am honest the pattern in my marriage can continue with my relationship with God.  Often Jesus is only getting my leftovers. Life gets crazy and busy and the next thing I know that time set aside for God has been usurped by my To Do List.  This is not what I want.  I want to put God first with Kevin next in line!


So how do we combat this both in our marriages and our relationship with Christ?  I think it goes back to the “D” word Jeff talked about weeks ago.  Discipline.  We make a concerted effort to put time aside.  We schedule it it.  Wake up earlier. Leave work earlier.  Hire a babysitter.  We do what we need to do to get our relationships back in line where they belong.  I know it sounds easy on paper, but reality is complicated.  It is hard work ,but the payoff is so worth it!


heather and KevinWhen we got married the videographers said they had never seen a couple smile as much as we did.  They said that we never stopped smiling; not through the prayers, the songs, the scripture readings, the vows, not once. Eighteen years later there have been tears, there have been sleepless nights but we’re still smiling.  I can’t wait to see what the future holds.



What else does the Bible say about marriage?

Proverbs 5: 18-19

Proverbs 12:4

Proverbs 18:22

Proverbs 19:14

Proverbs 31:10

Other books:

Ephesians 5: 22-33

Matthew 19: 4-6

1 Corinthians 7: 1-16

1 Corinthians 13:4-13

Colossians 3: 18-19


Discussion Questions:

  1. What stood out to you from this message?
  2. What have you done (or can you do) to be intentional about putting  time with your spouse as a priority?
  3. Are there things you can do to put Jesus as a priority if you have drifted?
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