Life, it’s more than a game – August 18

Marriage is hard, there is no doubt about that! Brian and I have been married almost 20 years and when we hit about 17 years or so people started asking what the secret was, as if we had been married forever and it was a miracle. (And sometimes it really does feel like a miracle). I don’t know if this is the secret, but this is what I have learned…


Marriage is a covenant you make with God and each other. It is not based on how “you” feel or what “you” want. Like Jeff said, we have to be wholly committed. Wholly committed even when we don’t “feel” like it, wholly committed even if it’s the hardest thing we’ll ever do, wholly committed to perseverance because God has a story to tell though all our marriages. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us that God has a plan for us, to grow us and prosper us, and give us a hope and future and I believe this is true for our marriages too.


So what do you do when hard times come and you are wholly committed?


When we hit the hardest season of our marriage, I was so grateful to be surrounded by a community that believes in the commitment and covenant of marriage. We didn’t have a plan for this rough season but God did! We had friends and family that fought alongside of us and for us. We had wise people that spoke truth into our lives. And we had God’s word that helped us navigate through difficult challenges.


Encouragement came in many different forms. But I never expected the lyrics from a song to speak to me the way “I won’t give up” by Jason Mraz did. God spoke directly to my soul through this song. It was my reminder to NEVER GIVE UP, NEVER BEND TO THE WORLD, GIVE ALL YOUR LOVE, AND ALWAYS LOOK UP! Here are a few verses…


I don’t wanna be someone who walks away so easily
I’m here to stay and make the difference that I can make
Our differences they do a lot to teach us how to use
The tools and gifts we got yeah, we got a lot at stake
And in the end, you’re still my friend at least we did intend
For us to work we didn’t break, we didn’t burn
We had to learn how to bend without the world caving in
I had to learn what I’ve got, and what I’m not and who I am

I won’t give up on us, even if the skies get rough
I’m giving you all my love
I’m still looking up, still looking up.

I won’t give up on us (no I’m not giving up)
God knows I’m tough enough (I am tough, I am loved)
We’ve got a lot to learn (we’re alive, we are loved)
God knows we’re worth it (and we’re worth it)

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I certainly don’t have all the answers, but I am blessed to share what God has shown us. Make sure to surround yourselves with people who will support you during the hard times, never make a decision solely on how you feel, and take time to talk about what it means to never give up. – Christine Graves


older marriage handsWhat does it mean to never bend to the world?

What does it look like to give ALL your love?

What does it mean to always look up?


Do you think about what you want your marriage will look like in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? 50 years? Are you imagining growing old together? I hope you are because God has a great plan for you and your marriage!

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