LIFE- It’s more than a game – August 4

Crossing out Lies and writing Truth on a blackboard.

There are two statements that Jeff made in his sermon this week that particularly stood out to me. One was “lying is an attempt to hide from others, God and ourselves.” The other is “The goal of Christian maturity is not to lie less, but to embrace the Truth more.”



These put me in mind of a bible study I was involved in years ago called, “Lies Women Believe”, by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. This study involves looking at a series of lies that our culture believes, that we as Christians often just believe as truth without checking it out against the light of Scripture (and while this study was written for women, the vast majority of the lies are not really gender specific). This study covered 40 lies. The author presented the lie, and how it is manifested, then would present what the Bible had to say about it. One example of a lie is, I don’t have time to do everything I am supposed to do. The Bible says, “There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under heaven.” (Ecc 3:1 NIV) Another example is, I shouldn’t have to suffer.” The Bible says, “So keep a firm grip on the faith. The suffering won’t last forever.” (1Pet 5:10 Mess)


This was one of the most challenging studies I have ever done. As a group, we had to examine our thinking. Most of us in that group were probably not actively telling untruths to the people around us. But what we discovered was that in fact most of us were believing lies about ourselves every day. I know I had to come to that conclusion. The discussions were lively (this is an understatement) and deep. The truth, while ALWAYS the best path, can really be hard to face, especially when the lies have been believed for years. There were many disagreements in our discussions. But, as we did hold these convictions up to the light of scripture, we almost invariably came to a mutual conclusion at the end, that what we walked into the study believing, was indeed a lie.  For instance, it can be very easy sometimes to treat my family, my co-workers or people who serve me in the community poorly based on the fact that I do not feel well that day. The Bible says that I need to treat others the way I would like to be treated, period. Ouch. I certainly do not want to be treated the way I have treated others at times. Since that study, I have tried to be conscious that I cannot blame my behavior on anything else but my own choices in the moment. I may be able to explain my poor behavior on my past experiences, or on how I am feeling that day, but I cannot blame those things. I am responsible for the choices that I make and what I choose to believe and how I act. And as hard as it has been to change some of my thought processes and actions, I can honestly say, that the Truth, while often hard, has always set me free.  – Vickie Crews

Further verses about lies or sin and its effects on us:

Psalm 51:12

Psalm 51:3

Psalm 38:1-11

Proverbs 28:1

John 8:34

Isaiah 30:1

Discussion Questions:

1. Is there an area where you are aware that you are believing or acting on a lie and cannot seem to stop it or are excusing it?

2. Are you willing to ask a friend or a mentor to share with you areas that they can see in you that need improvement or truth?

3. Are you willing to take the next step in uncovering the lies that you may be believing and acting out? This would involve getting involved with a small group, bible study or mentor and be willing to be transparent and hear hard truths so that you can change some long standing convictions or habits.

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