Message Series: When God Is Silent “The Dark Night”

When God Is Silent Series:

The Dark Night

Where Do I Go?

When God Says What We Don’t Want To Hear.


God can be maddeningly hard to get. When God says that his ways are not our ways, he really means it (Isaiah 55:8). We have these encounters with him where he breaks into our lives with power and answers our prayers and wins our trust and he waters the garden of our faith, making it lush and green. And then there are these seasons when chaos careens with apparent carelessness through our lives and the world, leaving us shattered. Or an unrelenting darkness descends. Or an arid wind we don’t even understand blows across our spiritual landscape, leaving the crust of our soul cracked and parched. And we cry to God in our confused anguish and he just seems silent. He seems absent” (Jon Bloom).


Open It:

  1. Do you like spending time alone or with friends? Why?
  2. How do you feel when you are all by yourself?


Going Deeper:

  1. Has there been a time in your life where God felt far away? What was happening?
  2. Has there been a time in your life where you felt very close to God? What was happening?
  3. What makes getting/staying close to God so difficult? (an illustration idea: life with God is something like walking up a downward escalator. Staying close requires continual effort, because as soon as we stop our sinful nature begins to carry us away.)
  4. Why is it that “absence makes the heart grow fonder” but “familiarity breeds contempt”?
  5. Why is water so much more refreshing when we’re really thirsty?
  6. Why are we almost never satisfied with what I have, but always longing for more?
  7. Why can the thought of being denied freedom or some other dream create in us a desperation we previously didn’t have?
  8. Why is the pursuit of earthly achievement often more enjoyable than the achievement itself?
  9. Why do deprivation, adversity, scarcity, and suffering often produce the best character qualities in us while prosperity, ease, and abundance often produce the worst?
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